Social learning theorist, Albert Bandura, focused on our development through vicarious knowledge as the way we obtain knowledge. This means that we learn from the behavior of those that we admire. Modeling, according to Bandura, is “one of the most pervasive and powerful means of transmitting values, attitudes, and patterns of thought and behavior” (Bussey & Bandura, 1999, p.16). Girls imitate older women, such as their mothers and boys imitate older men, such as their fathers. Jerome Kagan, another social learning theorist, identified how important modeling was in the development of gender roles in his break down of four phases. The four stages include identifying with the model, acting like the model, feeling what the model feels, and being the model. The way that children play also has something to do with the social learning aspect of development. Starting around age two, children generally prefer same-sex playmates, and this is persistent across cultures (Alexander & Hines, 1994). This is because boys prefer to be more rough while girls are much less active.
Lawrence Kohlberg, cognitive development theorist, theorized that three processes occur that help an individual determine their gender role. Gender identity, the first process, is when a child is able to discriminate whether someone else or themselves are male or female based on their appearance. This occurs around the ages of three and four. Gender identity is important “because gender is the only fixed general category into which children can sort themselves and others...” (Kohlberg, 1987, p. 35). At this point children are still in pre-operations and do not have the ability to conserve so they believe that gender is not permanent and can change. During gender identity children also begin to play with toys that are gender appropriate for that (ex: Barbies for girls and GI Joe for boys). The second process, gender stability helps little girls and boys understand that girls will remain females and boys will remain males. The third process, gender constancy, comes about are the ages of six and seven when a child understands that gender remains constant regardless of changes in appearance or activity. This point relies on the development of the ability to conserve, therefore during this process children understand that they will remain male or female even if they have an appearance that is opposite of what they are.
Sandra Bem, gender schema theorist, theorized that because we are surrounded by gender from the moment that we are born the development of every experienced schema comes from the things that we are surrounded by from birth. Therefore, the things that we experience comes way before the stages that Kohlberg theorized which means that the idea of gender schema development comes much earlier than the cognitive development stage. The Bem Sex Role Inventory helps give specific evidence for each gender role. The inventory consisted of, the Androgyny score which “reflects the relative amounts of masculinity and femininity that the person includes in his or her self-description, and, as such, it best characterizes the nature of the person's total sex role” (Bem, 1974, p. 158). The individual taking the BSRI can be considered Masculine, Feminine, Androgynous, and Undifferentiated. A masculine individual exhibits high masculine personality traits and low female personality traits where as a feminine individual exhibits high feminine personality traits and low male personality traits. An androgynous individual exhibits both high masculine and feminine traits whereas the undifferentiated individuals exhibits the opposite which as both low masculine and feminine traits.
The Psychoanalytic and Identification Theories begin with Sigmund Freud and Erik Erikson. Freud believed that identification was the primary aspect of gender roles where children subconsciously developed behaviors and beliefs. This began in the Phallic Stage where the focus of pleasure is based upon the genital area. This is when the male children fall in love with their mother, Odepius Complex, and the female children fall in love with their fathers, Electra Complex. Erik Erikson developed his theory from Freud's psychoanalytic works, but Erikson's theory concerns the development of personality that occurs in stages and involves resolutions of crises that are presented through a child's interactions with other and the environment.
During my senior year of high school, in Advanced Placement Literature class, we were required to Oedipus Rex and do a presentation. My presentation covered the Freudian theory and others. Laius, Oedipus’ father was told that his son would kill him and sleep with his wife. So, they decided to give Oedipus away. He moves from Corinth to Delphi where he is given the news that he would kill his father so that he could sleep with his mother. He tried his best to prevent this oracle from coming true by moving again, but it seemed that trouble followed his every move. One way to resolve the Oedipus complex the child must first identify with the same sex parent. They must also realize the more realistic ego knows that the father is the stronger person in this situation.
As a parent, I will make sure my child’s ego is the strongest. I would prefer their ego be the strongest because it is much easier to control the seeking of pleasure (ID) and moral reasoning (superego).